Kuta Sweats Sex 4

By Denise Dowling

"When Sally leaves, it will be hard not to see other women because I'm a man", Matt says. "I want to marry Sally. I think this is forever, because I get everything I want now."

"Right now I'm thinking, 'What have I done?' " Sally says, lighting a Marlboro.

"I've lost my marriage, my kids and my house because of Matt. My oldest daughter says, 'I don't know what you see in him, he's just a parasite.' I try to talk to Matt about it, but he doesn't want to listen, he doesn't understand." There's definitely something there," she's quick to add. "I mean, I'm in love. It's been exciting and adventurous. But my life in Australia is so different and spending all this money is totally out of character for me. It would have been more economical to have met an Australian guy!"

Sally sighs and drags on her cigarette when asked what she gets from the relationship. "Well, I hold the purse strings, and maybe I'm a person who likes control. Sometimes I feel like I'm his mother. Matt says to me, 'You're my guardian angel, you saved me.' That makes me feel good. You know, in retrospect, I would have been quite happy to be by myself", she adds. "But then I met Matt... and it just sort of happened..." She trails off, like she wishes it wasn't too late to return Matt and get her money back.

Jean is a 49-year-old ex-farmer's wife from Western Australia who's been living with her 25-year-old boyfriend Heri for four months. She and Heri are like teenagers, giggling and arm-wrestling with each other. While we talk, she flips through photos of herself and Heri partying, and shots of Heri grinning impishly after Jean dressed him as a girl.

Heri proposed to Jean three weeks into the relationship, but Jean said no. "I want to marry Jean and live in Australia because I can work there", Heri explains in stilted English. "If I stay here and marry an Indonesian girl, I think I have less of a future."

Jean doesn't want to rush into anything, nor does she want Heri to feel he has to make a commitment, because she can't give him children.